ive posted some of our situation before so won't repeat it but in a nutshell, we are coming to crisis point with Mum and Dad. Dad desperately in need of a break from caring for Mum. We do all we can and we are getting in 2 hours 'housekeeper' a day ( Carer by another name) but Mums unpredictable moods, hallucinations, repetitive questioning, anger, last week violence, have all worn 81 yr old Dad to exhaustion. Question .... When we find somewhere for Mum to be looked after, how the hell do we get her there when (and it will be when, not if) she refuses. Mum still thinks she is self-sufficient as in her head she is 10+ years younger. What legal/medical help is needed or is it entirely about 'persuading her' or 'love lies'? Sister and I simply have to work full-time so whilst we could manage a long weekend, this won't be enough, Dad needs to rest. Thanks for any guidance.