My partner is 25 years older than me at 81. Up to about 18 months ago, he has been very fit, but I am seeing a deterioration - especially with his memory and recall. Trouble is he is exceedingly stubborn and can get aggressive/angry. I am beginning to feel like I am continually nagging him when I see him looking for something, or trying to remember something. We have had items lost or misplaced but he just attributes it to old age. On holiday he is fine and a lot of the time he is find. It is just the two of us and neither of us have any familt to support us. We both had some friends nearby where the husband went through dememtia and he was aggressive/violent. His wife had family around her and coped for about 4 years with caring before she had to have him put in a home. Sh has now moved away and thus I have noone to turn to to help. Any friends we do see say to me "isn't he keeping good for his age?". And generally he is, but at times, he isn't and then life becomes a strain. I spend a lot of time on my own upstairs reading or on the computer and he spend the day downstairs watching TV, listening to music or reading. I took early retirement a couple of years ago so that we could spend time together. We were doing a voluntary job, but it got to the stage where he was not remembering how to do tasks and causing frustration with others, so we gave it up. He does the cooking and housework and won't allow me to help. I have to discreetly go around after him putting things where they should be. He is the only driver in the household, so I dread when he has to give that up as local transport is hopeless. I dread having to get him to a doctor for a diagnosis and am thinking of whether we should move in a retirement village - so that I know support is nearby is needed. Its a bit of a ramble this, but just really not sure what to do / how to cope.