I came to this thread for some comfort as I weep for my dear husband who died in the early hours of yesterday morning and I find us all suffering in the same way which gives me some sort of crazy comfort. I knew this would be the best place to be and so it is. The sheer ghastliness of dying from the starvation symptoms of Alzheimer’s disease would cripple the stoutest person so we are right to be so traumatised. Will it fade eventually? I have no idea but I saw him through the passage to death and so must try to live for both of us. One just does not ‘get over’ or ‘learn to live with it’ one just lives along side of the lost person whom you hold in your heart. I told him that as he lay dying without any understanding of it and it seemed to make him tranquil. So I must keep telling myself the same thing and hope that I gain some peace. He seemed more lucid as the end approached which helped his children and me.