Thank you all so much for sharing your experiences with me.
Sorry that I didn't respond earlier, I'm still trying to figure out how to run two households and take care of my 3 kids.
I am going to program his favorite channels tomorrow and then hide his other remotes.
I hadn't heard of the flipper, I'm so going to get one and program it down to just a few channels. Sounds wonderful. Although it still won't make Emmerdale play 24 hours a day will it
Just wanted to respond to this comment, Mum has been diagnosed for the past 2 years and deteriating rapidly. We live in the same street and have 5 kids, so I can empathise with the difficulties fo running two households with the chaos of family life!
I think I struggled on for too long unhelped. I should have got an assesment for care support earlier. I so wanted to look after mum myself because I knew thats what she would have wanted - it is what she would say even now that she thinks family should do it all.
But what I didn't realise until I started to come through what I am sure was a bit of a breakdown this summer, is that my children are still my children, and when i became so absorbed by trying to cope with the day to day world of dementia and keep all fo the family balls juggling, my complete exhaustion was stealing their mother and my husbands wife.
We now have day care and a carer who pops in twice a day, this means that there can be one or two days of the week where I don't see my mum and i am a better mother for it. We are also going to brave respite (we had one bad experience where mum had a fall and I was scared to try) again, to try to get regular breaks where we can be a family not worrying about mums safety.
You may already have this all sorted, I hope you don't mind me writing, just the juggling is awfully tiring