Hi My husband of 52 years has Dementia now. Sadly its heart breaking watching him slowly deteriorate before my eyes to a person that has changed from the wonderful loving person I once knew into the person he is now. He is still my one love and always will be. Yes I do get frustrated and tired at times, but then you have to rally around again and look after him. When I have moments of despair (and these are mostly when trying to go to sleep) I try to take my mind back to when we first met and how crazy I felt about him and try to remind myself that it is this dreadful illness that is causing all the problems now. When I feeling low I also try to think of the lovely holidays we spent together Also he did some wonderful things for me in our home. He has always looked after me and kept me safe so now its my turn to pay back for some of things he did for me. I am learning to try and cope with his illness by changing our lifestyle. Getting him to use a bucket at night in the bedroom (this stops me worrying about him falling on the tiles in the bathroom), and I bought a washable doormat to put under the bucket. He does wear panty pads supplied by the clinic (this helps as then I am not nagging him to go and changed his pants so much). I bought these 'pull-on' trainer trousers (easy to wash). I bought nice fluffy throws to go over the furniture (easy to wash). I bought the chains with the crocodile clips off the web to hold his napkin (like the ones the dentist uses). Its still very hard for everyone who is living with this illness but I am fortunate with the help of my two wonderful daughters we get buy for now.