Hi all - I'm new here and to be honest hadn't thought this forum would apply to me until someone recently suggested that I had a caring role. My parents are both 85 and ten years ago mum was diagnosed with Parkinson's and in the last couple of years the associated Lewy body dementia. There are other medical problems as well but they have always been fiercely independent and in their sixty two years of marriage have looked after each other. Mum is at the stage where all she wants to do is sleep all the time and it is a struggle for her to get dressed and move around as she used to. Her hearing and sight are also affected so she can't concentrate on simple things like watching the tv. More recently she has been getting quite aggressive with dad and is refusing to go to medical appointments etc. I know dad is finding this very difficult to cope with - in his words 'if we can get mum sorted I'll be fine'. I speak to dad every morning on the phone for half an hour which gives him a chance to offload but he is reluctant to speak to anyone else apart from the doctor as he feels he's doing mum a disservice. I live twenty miles away and go and visit once or twice a week but apart from that they have no friends or neighbours for local support (those they knew when mum was 'well' have moved away). I have tried to get them involved in local support groups but dad really doesn't want to go. What I find difficult is trying to say to him that things are unlikely to improve - not only for mum but his health is obviously affected as well. I have spoken to local support groups and they have been lovely but again dad doesn't see the point. I'm worried for both of them and don't quite know what more I can do.