Hi first can I just say having read many of the posts here I’m feeling quite humble by members strength and courage you are amazing. I’m sure this has been asked before but we need to get Mums dementia diagnosed so have made an appointment at the doctors, she has never been one to be at the doctors and has in the past taken against them for even suggesting she have tests ie scans for recurring utis (we had to cancel in the end ).
So in under two weeks we have to get her to the surgery (they won’t come out unless housebound) so she may just refuse get her in the car which is increasingly more difficult as she’s eighty eight and while fairly mobile she has trouble getting in.The next problem if we manage all that will be that while she is totally dependent on my sister and I (we go in six or more times a day) she explains to everyone that she is doing it all herself .she has hallucinations delusions has forgotten having my sister and is accusing her of being our Dads child from an affair. But when chatting to her sister for an hour can recall every detail of my sisters birth. So in my long winded way how will the doctor be able to diagnose anything if she’s able to switch it on and off like a bulb.
We are wondering if it’s worth asking for a private home visit but don’t know if our doctors do this or wether they would be able refer us to one that can. We are desperate to get her help
So in under two weeks we have to get her to the surgery (they won’t come out unless housebound) so she may just refuse get her in the car which is increasingly more difficult as she’s eighty eight and while fairly mobile she has trouble getting in.The next problem if we manage all that will be that while she is totally dependent on my sister and I (we go in six or more times a day) she explains to everyone that she is doing it all herself .she has hallucinations delusions has forgotten having my sister and is accusing her of being our Dads child from an affair. But when chatting to her sister for an hour can recall every detail of my sisters birth. So in my long winded way how will the doctor be able to diagnose anything if she’s able to switch it on and off like a bulb.
We are wondering if it’s worth asking for a private home visit but don’t know if our doctors do this or wether they would be able refer us to one that can. We are desperate to get her help