1. Expert Q&A: Living well as a carer - Thurs 29 August, 3-4pm

    As a carer for a person living with dementia, the needs of the person you care for will often come before your own. You may experience a range of difficult emotions and you may not have the time to do all the things you need to do. Caring can have a big impact on both your mental and physical health, as well as your overall wellbeing.

    Angelo, our Knowledge Officer (Wellbeing) is our expert on this topic. He will be here to answer your questions on Thursday 29 August between 3-4pm.

    You can either post questions >here< or email them to us at talkingpoint@alzheimers.org.uk and we'll answer as many as we can on the day.

Trying to accept why at 25 I have to deal with my dad having early onset alzheimers

Discussion in 'Younger people with dementia and their carers' started by Naomi25, Mar 5, 2018.

  1. KeddyL

    KeddyL Registered User

    Jun 8, 2014
    17
    Hello

    I'm sorry to hear how you are feeling. You are not a terrible person. Please don't be too hard on yourself.

    I was in my teens when my mum got dementia at 47. She died this January aged 57 and I am 27.

    There was times when I was with my mum where I felt similar. At times I felt she 'ruined' some of our family days out and I used to feel angry about it inside. I would go and hug and kiss her and I remember she once pinched me or screamed if I showed any affection. I was so hurt and cross. Then one day I looked her in the eyes and she was empty.

    I have always felt for me that the process of dealing with someone with dementia is a very long greifing process. Mixes emotions. Good days. Bad day. Good moods. Bad moods.

    Please feel free to message me if you want to talk or have a moan. I have been through your current journey. In the mean time, be good to yourself and your needs too. Will be thinking of you xx
     
  2. Naomi25

    Naomi25 New member

    Mar 5, 2018
    9
    Female
    I’m so sorry you had to go through that and deal with your mum having this awful illness at such a young age. I completely agree that it is a constant grieving process. Some days it’s all I can think about and others I feel like I can accept it and that it already feels like I’ve lost my dad as he just isn’t the person he was.

    Thanks so much for responding, I hope your finding things ok since your mum passed (well as ok as can be) it must have been so hard.

    Thank you, sending you my thoughts too xx
     
  3. KeddyL

    KeddyL Registered User

    Jun 8, 2014
    17
    Absolutely. Unfortuntely all we can do is ride with the good and the bad times. Mines a different type of mixed emotions now. I'm glad shes a peace but miss her so so much. I never regret or feel bad for the way I felt sometimes though. Think we can be too hard on ourselves. We are only human.

    I'm doing 'ok' thank you. I went on to have my first baby 3weeks after my mum passed so she is keeping me busy and keeping me focused on the bigger picture. Take care xx
     

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