I have just woken up this morning looking to have a bit of a rant to get it off my chest. The problem is with my SIL, she has been completely uncaring and insensitive as soon as my MIL first showed signs of dementia. My MIL 81 has just been diagnosed with mixed dementia, vascular and alzheimer's last Wednesday and my SIL could not care less. The relationship between SIL and MIL has always been strained but the response from SIL has both angered and shocked me. Thank goodness I have a really close relationship with my own mother. SIL has turned round and said in phone calls "In my mind she's already dead!" and the other night "If we are going to put her in a home, hire a skip and throw all her stuff in it!" I do not know if there are other families going through this but I just feel that it is so unfair. Dementia is bad enough to deal with but then having this response from her own daughter is completely out of order! The other thing that makes me angry is the fact that she has offered no help in any of this and it is up to my hubby and I to sort everything out, care, appointment, phone calls the lot!