I am a newbe to this site and thought I'd tell my story to hopefully make the best decision. My dad was diagnosed with early onset alzheimers four years ago at the age of 63. My parents are both retired so mum takes care of dad. After living way from home for 7 years my wife and I moved back to be close to my parents and to support them. Mum has done an amazing job looking after dad but lately I've noticed that she has been finding it hard to deal with things. My dad is at the stage where he cannot drive and finds it hard to do the most simplest of things. He gets frustrated easily and mum cops the verbal abuse that is associated with alzheimers patients. I have 3 older sisters, 2 of which live in my home town. The decision that I am faced with is that my wife and I are going on our OE next year in january. I am worried about what may happen in the next 5 months to dad. Will he go down hill fast or remain the same? I feel bad that I'm going to be leaving because I want to be there for mum. I'm 26 years old and want to see the world with my wife but at the same time love my parents and want to be there to support them. Do I stay and regret later on that I didn't go or do I go and face the possibility that when I come back my dad won't recognise me???What about mum?? Am I being selfish about the whole situation???