Hi, im new here. I am trying to get my mum to go see the doctors for a proper diagnosis, as she is showing signs of early dementia, i.e; forgets words and doesn't finish a sentence, changes topic of conversation, gets muddled with time of events etc, but what is really worrying me is that she is now accusing my brother and i of mistreating her because i have mentioned the Doctors and dementia to her. My brother is 58 and lives with her as her main carer. I am 54 and live alone and have several health issues myself to deal with and im registered disabled. I am trying my best to get her to go, and have explained to her that it might not be dementia but something else that the Dr can help with. She just thinks that we want her 'out of the way', and says things like 'nobody cares about her', yet the onus is on me organising aids at home for her to get around etc as my brother has no idea what help is out there. I've also been in touch with the council about a disability grant so she can have a downstairs wet room, as she cant get up the stairs anymore. Im sorry for the long post, but i feel like im banging my head against a brick wall.....no matter what i say or do for her...its never good enough and she gets argumentative and then manipulative and refuses help from us....what can i do? any advice appreciated! TIA.