Hello all, Apologies for not posting recently but just haven't been able to face it (does that sound rude?) My Grandad is now a permanent care home resident after breaking his hip there whilst on respite. When he was in hospital with a broken hip we got the call at midnight to ask if they could put "Do not resusciate" on his notes as they didn't expect him to survive. He then got a chest infection too. The family all paid a vigil and said their goodbyes, we got grilled by the nursing staff that it was ok for "DNR" to be on his notes etc. However, Grandad got over the infections etc and was discharged! Now many many weeks later we are back to the same again. Home called to say Grandad has got a chest infection and he is refusing to take his anti-biotics. Dr was called out and we had the option of him going to hospital or staying at the home and be given Morphine to ease the pain. We decided to leave him at the home rather than move him again so we have been told to expect the worst (again) Half of me can't help thinking that he will pull through again and the other half is thinking "is this it"?? Have any TP members had to do several "goodbyes" as this is pretty hard to deal with.