So pleased that you enjoyed your walk this morning with your wife and Zeus Hope the shopping trip is successful too
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Still getting over it. Not good to tell you the truth.
1 out if 2 is not that bad is it?
No 1 out of 2 not that bad at all. Maybe your wife and then you became over ambitious to attempt both things in one day.
I am learning to content myself with small achievements, if I can cook on one day enjoy while I can, if I can't do it the next day don't fret over it and know that another day will come when I can. On days when I am 'better' I forget that I am no longer as I was and think I can do all the things I used to be able to and of course want to. It must be very hard for your wife not being able to do the things she once could
MY wife is getting frustrated at not being able to do simple tasks which is a new thing as before today there was nothing wrong with her (in her thoughts) so maybe we are moving on to accepting that there is a problem and she is recognising it, I really hope so as I do find it hard to cope with total denial
I hate AD as I am sure my wife is also confused and hates this disease, only today, nothing I said, she actually said to me "I am confused" this is a first as she has never admitted being confused. I just hugged her and said it will be all right, I am here for you.
I do not want to be thanked by my wife, I do not want her to feel that she is a burden to me in anyway but when she said those 3 words to me (I am confused) it was a huge step in saying to me (I think I am not myself) this in itself is a huge milestone for the both of us
That does sound like a huge step Dave and maybe her daughter has helped with that by talking to her Mum. Maybe too her daughter has made her realise that you are working very hard to care for her - which can't always be recognised by the caree for various reasons.
Not seen daughter since last week, no calls, no contact with myself or my wife so am wondering if she really understands the situation or was it simply to keep the peace...
Well if it was to keep the peace that's a start, she will understand more when she meets the Consultant. Your wife will have told her her view too and it may be hard for her daughter to really understand the situation from your perspective.
Exactly...
Our appointment with the "Memory Team" and psychiatrist is at 3pm Wednesday 09 July 2014.
My wife, myself and daughter will be there so no Chinese whispers (he said / she said scenarios)
Only 4 days to go, it will not help my wife's condition but at least I may get other family members to help me.
Maybe any info that you have sent in advance to the psychiatrist you could also send to her daughter so that she can read what things are really like obviously stating that you have done this without your wife's knowledge so as not to upset her.
Oh Poop, not done that yet, said I was going to but I feel that I am stabbing my wife in the back if I do
I have said so much here to total strangers (no offence, I love you all) but I do not want my wife to know exactly how I feel, is that betrayal or stupidity on my behalf?
Your wife wont know exactly how you feel if you write to the psychiatrist confidentially, but neither will the psychiatrist as you wont mention half of the things they need to know in front of your wife.
You don't have to write so much about your feelings but observations of changes in behaviour of your wife and the effect that then has on your ability to manage your own working life and care for her - that is what they (the memory team) and her daughter need to know.
You are not stabbing her in the back but simply trying to get help for her and you. Your wife cannot go to the psychiatrist and tell them what's wrong - she needs you to do it for her.
Please don't miss this opportunity it will help them to help you.
Hod that thought. Got top take Zeus out for his walk right now, he just brought my boots in (1 by 1) so how can I not say no...
Clever dog
I hate AD as I am sure my wife is also confused and hates this disease, only today, nothing I said, she actually said to me "I am confused" this is a first as she has never admitted being confused. I just hugged her and said it will be all right, I am here for you.