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Tomorrow will be the happiest and saddest day.

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by kayze, Jun 20, 2015.

  1. kayze

    kayze Registered User

    Jan 20, 2014
    166
    Hi,

    I have been told my husband has about 6 months left in this life.

    Tomorrow we will be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary, his birthday and fathers day. We are having a barbeque with important people that have shared our lives.
    The family support worker from the hospice said it will also be a chance to say goodbye,but also to celebrate his life and our life together.

    I am trying so hard to be happy for tomorrow, but I just feel so sad inside knowing this will be the last time. I can't get over the thought of him dying and being alone.

    Thanks for listening.

    Kayze
     
  2. jeany123

    jeany123 Registered User

    Mar 24, 2012
    19,049
    Durham
    I am so sorry to hear about your husband Kayze, I hope you manage to make tomorrow full of memories for you,

    Congratulations on your anniversary,

    Best wishes Jeany xx
     
  3. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Hello Kayze
    Just enjoy every day that you have with your dear husband, the medics don't always get it right, hope you have many more months with your husband. Have a lovely day tomorrow.
     
  4. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    I thought I hadn't seen you around here for some time, Kayze. What bittersweet times you're having, and you don't know how to feel, or what. Thoughts come and go and somehow, we get through to the next stage.

    However things are at whatever time, please know you always have us here when you need a shoulder. I wish you and your husband a beautiful day tomorrow with lots and lots of memories to store away. Nobody can ever take your memories from you.
     
  5. Alan19531953

    Alan19531953 Registered User

    Jun 16, 2015
    36
    So sorry to hear

    Wish for better times for you
     
  6. truth24

    truth24 Registered User

    Oct 13, 2013
    5,726
    North Somerset
    So sorry to read your post, Kayze, and hope you manage a lovely celebration tomorrow.
     
  7. Suzanna1969

    Suzanna1969 Registered User

    Mar 28, 2015
    346
    Essex
    I echo all the above and... do take lots of photos.

    Have a wonderful day tomorrow xxx
     
  8. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,535
    North East England
    My goodness Kayze I simply can't imagine how you must be feeling. What a blow.

    I hope you both have a fabulous time tomorrow and make lots of happy memories to sustain you for whatever is to come.

    I don't think I've ever wished harder for nice weather and I hope the sun shines on you all xx
     
  9. Tin

    Tin Registered User

    May 18, 2014
    4,829
    UK
    So sorry to read this. Lean on those around you tomorrow and make every minute of the day count. Sleep well tonight.
     
  10. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,718
    Kent
    I felt such sadness reading your post kayze.

    You are very brave to be able to put on such a good event for your husband, family and friends. I hope it is what you want it to be.
     
  11. Weary

    Weary Registered User

    Aug 1, 2014
    86
    Thinking of you at this very sad news. It will be tough but i hope you manage to enjoy the day. There is a saying "enjoy the moments" and it is good advise as we never know what the future has planned for us. I hope the weather is kind for your barbeque, make sure you take some video and plenty of photos.
     
  12. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
    22,491
    Female
    Near Southampton
    I wish a wonderful day today. A day to treasure in the coming days and to remember for the rest of your life - for good reasons not sad ones.
    A bittersweet occasion indeed but how brave of you to do this. x
     
  13. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    58,756
    Female
    Dundee
    Wishing you the best of days. x
     
  14. kayze

    kayze Registered User

    Jan 20, 2014
    166
    Hi,

    Thank you all for your support, I've checked the weather, no rain but cloudy with sunshine in the afternoon, let's hope they are right.

    I will take lots of videos and pictures like you all said.

    Thanks again for your support.

    Kayze
     
  15. Jinx

    Jinx Registered User

    Mar 13, 2014
    2,333
    Pontypool
    Hope today goes well and you're able to crest many happy memories to treasure later on. x


    Sent from my iPad using Talking Point
     
  16. Lilac Blossom

    Lilac Blossom Registered User

    Oct 6, 2014
    501
    Scotland
    Hope you have the best possible day today Kayzee - Hugs xx
     
  17. DeborahBlythe

    DeborahBlythe Registered User

    Dec 1, 2006
    9,222
    Very true, pamann. At one point we were told my mother might only have 3 months left. She lived another 3 years.

    Kayze, have the very best day possible. I hope the weather is kind and civilised for your celebration.
     
  18. Soobee

    Soobee Registered User

    Aug 22, 2009
    2,734
    South
    I hope today is everything you need it to be xx
     
  19. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    6,967
    Brixham Devon
    Kayze, I'm so sorry that you are posting such sad news. I hope you find your day full of sunshine and love from your family and friends.

    Love

    Lyn T XX
     
  20. kayze

    kayze Registered User

    Jan 20, 2014
    166
    Thank you for the support.


    The barbeque went really well,my husband had lots of smiles for everyone, lots of pictures.

    I played the song we had our first dance to Jennifer Rush the power of love everyone was crying especially my dad. I think I was pretty strong but now it's over I can't stop crying.

    Kayze
     

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