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Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by Scarlett123, Feb 9, 2015.

  1. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    As my namesake, Miss O'Hara said, at the end of Gone With The Wind. :) With over 40 pages in reply to my thread "Goodbye my love, John died today", and that was started 7 weeks ago tomorrow, I feel the time has come for me to move on.

    I'm not going!!! :eek::eek::eek: Goodness, can you imagine me trying to shut up! ;) It's just I want to be associated with a different heading now. I'm no longer someone who fulfils the criteria "I have a partner with dementia", but I hope I can still be of help to others.

    If anyone ever has a problem that they don't want to post about, I'll always respond to PMs, whether I can offer advice, or only sympathy. As I've mentioned before, once I've had my foot op next week, and the required 4 - 6 weeks of recovery, I'm volunteering at the Citizens Advice Bureau, for help with form filling, or assistance with helping carers.

    Mind you, it's now about 4 months since I completed that mammoth questionnaire for my LA, offering my services, and still haven't received the courtesy of a reply, and CAB might be the same. But I can offer. :)
     
  2. truth24

    truth24 Registered User

    Oct 13, 2013
    5,726
    North Somerset
    Please stay with me Scarlett. I benefit so much from your wise counselling and would miss your prose enormously. Will you be continuing this thread? I vounteered as an IT advisor for Age Concern and it took 3 months for them to contact me to say all was in place even though the ex CR check, can't remember what it's replacement is called, took no time at all. Will be thinking of you at your op time and hoping all is well. Loving thoughts. Verity xx:)
     
  3. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
    22,497
    Female
    Near Southampton
    Nice to see you starting a new thread Scarlett.
    I think we all eventually realise that we need to do it but your's sounds far more positive than mine!
    I hope you'll be here for a long time. x
     
  4. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,976
    Suffolk
    Oh, definitely stay a long time, Scarlett. Where would we be without you!!
     
  5. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
    11,717
    Female
    London
    Scarlett, you are an incredibly articulate person and you will be a total asset to the CAB, just as you are an asset here, so don't you go anywhere please!
     
  6. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,521
    Ireland
    Nice to see your new thread Scarlett! :) Hope your op goes well. xx
     
  7. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    Scarlett; firstly, wishing you every best thing with the foot operation. Secondly; you're one of our family, and families stick together gal! You have all the rest you need, ya hear? But come and say 'allo' sometimes, or we'd all miss you.

    Much love, xx
     
  8. esmeralda

    esmeralda Registered User

    Nov 27, 2014
    3,072
    Devon
    Fantastic to have the reassurance that you'll continue to be around Scarlett. Realise that it's still a terribly difficult time for you, so do appreciate that you are so willing to help others with your invaluable wisdom and experience. Hope your op goes well and the results are what you hope for. I think you'll be fab at the CAB. Love Es
    xxx
     
  9. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Dear Scarlett over the past 30yrs l have had 4 operations on my feet, bunions and 4 hammer toes, l have broken one ankle, and 2 bones in each feet. I don't know what surgery you are having, l hope all goes well, you must keep your feet up as much as possible after your operation, as the less weight you put on your feet the quicker they get better. Please stay with us here on TP, we all need you so much, thank you for all your help and advice. ♡♡♡
     
  10. Jinx

    Jinx Registered User

    Mar 13, 2014
    2,333
    Pontypool
    Good to see the new thread and hope op goes well too. x


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  11. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    What lovely responses. :) xxx
     
  12. truth24

    truth24 Registered User

    Oct 13, 2013
    5,726
    North Somerset
    Well deserved. xx

    Sent from my GT-N5110
     
  13. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    I contacted the local CAB, who are advertising for volunteers. I completed the online form, giving details of my experience, and also stating that I would be having a foot operation next week, but hope to be mobile, and available for work, if required, by the end of March.

    So I received an email reply this morning, inviting me for an interview - next week. :D I telephoned, and repeated what I'd said on the form, and the reply was ....... "Oh, I didn't bother to read that"!!!!! Happy Days! :)
     
  14. truth24

    truth24 Registered User

    Oct 13, 2013
    5,726
    North Somerset
    Seems to be catching from one organisation to another!

    Sent from my GT-N5110
     
  15. LadyA

    LadyA Registered User

    Oct 19, 2009
    13,521
    Ireland
    :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:
     
  16. pony-mad

    pony-mad Registered User

    May 23, 2014
    1,073
    Mid-Wales
    Hello Scarlett, All that effort filling in the application and they hadn't bothered reading it or they read the 1st 2 lines and decided that you are perfect which I'm sure you are having read many of your wise and sensitive posts on here!
    All the best with the foot op.
    Love G x


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  17. mabbs

    mabbs Registered User

    Dec 1, 2014
    238
    Lancashire
    hello Scarlett, not been on for a few days, just read your post, hope all goes well, both with op, and CAB, glad to hear you are staying with us, we would be lost without you.
     
  18. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    Having considered the reply from the CAB, I'm getting that awful feeling of deja vu. I think I'll just reapply when I'm mobile. In the meantime I am available on here for cyber wine, cake, choccies and flowers and odes when required. :D
     
  19. truth24

    truth24 Registered User

    Oct 13, 2013
    5,726
    North Somerset
    Hi Scarlett. Might able to reciprocate by sending you flowers, choccies, etc, to wish you well for your op, but rely on you for the odes. Hope you gave a peaceful day. xx

    Sent from my GT-N5110
     
  20. Scarlett123

    Scarlett123 Registered User

    Apr 30, 2013
    3,802
    Essex
    I had a lovely apologetic email from my new best friend, Bob at CAB, who said he was so excited when he read my first few sentences, that he couldn't wait to read the rest! I'd put:


    I am a retired Business Studies Teacher, both in Secondary and Tertiary Education and have also taught Life Skills, on a voluntary basis. For the past 12 years I have cared for my late husband, who had Alzheimer's, as well as several other illnesses. I have helped many friends and neighbours with form completion, ranging from Attendance Allowance applications to Probate.


    And then I'd explained about my foot op, and not being available until the end of March. I should have added:

    I am an active member of Talking Point, a brilliant forum, where carers of family members with Dementia, are able to share the highs and lows of their lives, and seek advice and support from others.

    As well as ensuring that others get fat, and drunk, on cyber cake and wine, I have found my particular forte is advising others on how to deal with the cement-reinforced brick walls, that are constantly erected, with lightning speed, whenever they seek help from The Authorities.
    ;)
     

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