So tomorrow my dad is due to go into his new care home To say I'm devastated is undermining how I really feel. I've shed bucket loads of tears but they keep coming...does it ever stop?
My reason for posting is to ask others of their experience of moving their loved one into a home. Dad is going straight from a short term placement where he went for assessment to the care home. This afternoon I've been informed that we, the relatives, do this on our own without help from anyone else not SS or the Mental Health Team who were the ones that snatched him away in the first place. I cant believe we have to do this alone without any mental professional. Dad's been in this place for 5 weeks and has been out nowhere. What do we tell him? Where will he think he is going? We are his family and he knows this still, wont he think he is going 'home'? I'm so emotional the thought of it just sends me in a complete tizzy. How am I going to cope? How will my sister and my brother cope? Should we all go? We are not mentally trained nurses and although we felt we knew our dad inside out once of course he isn't the same as he was and we don't know exactly how he has been every minute of the day in the assessment home. Has anyone anything they can say to help me today. I have a mum at home too with vascular dementia. Telling her is just another emotional thread to pull
My reason for posting is to ask others of their experience of moving their loved one into a home. Dad is going straight from a short term placement where he went for assessment to the care home. This afternoon I've been informed that we, the relatives, do this on our own without help from anyone else not SS or the Mental Health Team who were the ones that snatched him away in the first place. I cant believe we have to do this alone without any mental professional. Dad's been in this place for 5 weeks and has been out nowhere. What do we tell him? Where will he think he is going? We are his family and he knows this still, wont he think he is going 'home'? I'm so emotional the thought of it just sends me in a complete tizzy. How am I going to cope? How will my sister and my brother cope? Should we all go? We are not mentally trained nurses and although we felt we knew our dad inside out once of course he isn't the same as he was and we don't know exactly how he has been every minute of the day in the assessment home. Has anyone anything they can say to help me today. I have a mum at home too with vascular dementia. Telling her is just another emotional thread to pull