My husband has no problem using the loo when he wants to pass urine but when he needs a motion it is a different story. He realises he needs to go and goes out to the loo but trys to pass urine! I feel he is becoming frightened of what he feels internally when he needs to have a motion and no longer understands that he needs to sit on the loo to do so or too scared. It is wearing me down and I feel I am going out of my head. It reminds me of a child who becomes scared of going to the toilet. I sit with him.I sing to him, I stroke his head but all to no avail. Any advice please?