Fortunately dad is moving into a new nursing home next week as I have concerns about his current one. Nobody seems to worry that he’s in bed 24/7 and they don’t try and get him up. I visited the other day and he was extremely upset as he needed to defecate. The staff came in and just told him to do it in his (incontinence) pants. They made a half hearted attempt at organizing a hoist and then just never came back! Poor dad was so upset. He’s about 17st so I know it’s a pain to go through this because of his weight but this just doesn’t seem right to me. So I’m just wondering if this is the norm in nursing homes?