Hello
Please can you help me? My wife has dementia and has recently started being double incontinent. She wears a pad. The problem is she will not go to the toilet. So she ends up sitting in wet and dirty pads.
I have tried everything to persuade her to go but she refuses to go. My daughters plead with her and I have even gone down on my knees begging her to go. And she won't... She say she will go when she needs to... But she doesn't and because of this the soiled pads end up leaking everywhere onto clothes and pants and if I am not with her she puts her hands in to feel the pad and gets covered in dirt and it gets into her nails etc... It's become a real battleground and I am starting to get distressed as I know even now she is sitting in wee and poo....
She is a very stubborn person anyway and it is difficult to get her to wash or clean her teeth and I know this is a result of the dementia. Everything I need to do to keep her clean like bathing or cleaning her teeth is a fight but worst of all is the toileting.
Please help if you can with some suggestions. She is not forgetting to go - she knows where the toilet is - and can get there herself with a walking stick so that's not an issue. She just outright refuses to move from her chair and go.
Many thanks
Karl
Please can you help me? My wife has dementia and has recently started being double incontinent. She wears a pad. The problem is she will not go to the toilet. So she ends up sitting in wet and dirty pads.
I have tried everything to persuade her to go but she refuses to go. My daughters plead with her and I have even gone down on my knees begging her to go. And she won't... She say she will go when she needs to... But she doesn't and because of this the soiled pads end up leaking everywhere onto clothes and pants and if I am not with her she puts her hands in to feel the pad and gets covered in dirt and it gets into her nails etc... It's become a real battleground and I am starting to get distressed as I know even now she is sitting in wee and poo....
She is a very stubborn person anyway and it is difficult to get her to wash or clean her teeth and I know this is a result of the dementia. Everything I need to do to keep her clean like bathing or cleaning her teeth is a fight but worst of all is the toileting.
Please help if you can with some suggestions. She is not forgetting to go - she knows where the toilet is - and can get there herself with a walking stick so that's not an issue. She just outright refuses to move from her chair and go.
Many thanks
Karl