Mum is 97 and was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2014. She lives in her own home in Wales 60 miles away. My husband and I are her only carers. She is very stubborn and fiesty and so far has refused all offers of help from AS, her Doctor, the memory service and SS. We managed to install Telecare and a warden is supposed to visit twice a week but phones because of Covid.
We have continued to visit during lockdown to provide food and try and get washing. Mum doesn't change her clothes and it's a battle to get her to do so. Her toileting habits have been a cause for concern for sometime and are getting worse. She normally gets to the toilet in time, but will soil the seat, the floor, basin and towels. Her clothes can be soiled and there is often faeces under her finger nails. If I mention the problem she gets very angrey and last time told me to get out and never visit her again. I try and clean when we visit but she gets cross if I do as she thinks she does everything. I think she needs carers ( and a cleaner ) but she would never agree. Being so far away doesn't help and she won't move. I just don't know what to do, any suggestions?
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We have continued to visit during lockdown to provide food and try and get washing. Mum doesn't change her clothes and it's a battle to get her to do so. Her toileting habits have been a cause for concern for sometime and are getting worse. She normally gets to the toilet in time, but will soil the seat, the floor, basin and towels. Her clothes can be soiled and there is often faeces under her finger nails. If I mention the problem she gets very angrey and last time told me to get out and never visit her again. I try and clean when we visit but she gets cross if I do as she thinks she does everything. I think she needs carers ( and a cleaner ) but she would never agree. Being so far away doesn't help and she won't move. I just don't know what to do, any suggestions?
