Hello everyone and hope you are doing as well as can be expected.
A very difficult weekend, with four falls, despite having a Zimmer frame (his legs just give way) and difficulty in trying to get him to listen to the advice to best get him on his feet. The fourth fall happened Sunday morning, he was asleep, so I went for a walk around the block and picked up the newspaper. Home, washed hands, put radio and kettle on and started breakfast, when I heard continuous loud thudding on the front lounge ceiling. Went upstairs and he’s shouting and swearing at me, as he’s laid on the bedroom floor, the smell was awful and he’d had a bowel accident. It took 45mins to get him on all-fours (with a push from me), as he doesn’t have the strength. Left knee up and incidentally the lower handled toilet frame was used to help him up. Masses of poo in his pyjama bottoms and all over his bottom, leg bag and straps, legs and feet. Cleaned him with wet wipes and over to shower, dried him, leg bag change, nails cut, clean clothes and he’s as good as new. However, I’m in lots of pain in my back, basically everywhere, with the Cervical Spondylosis in my neck and spine and other conditions. I can deal with his disability from his MS and MS Dementia, but it’s the barrage of aggressive behaviour I can’t deal with, when all I’m doing is constantly caring for him (ill for 30 years and counting). He needs help, even with the TV remote control. I feel like I’m at the end of the road and can’t meet his needs anymore and I’ll be 60 next year...