My husband is 61 and has recently been diagnosed with dementia. He is reluctant to talk about it and tends to respond to my efforts to 'open up' with a joke. He has though said that he does not want to tell his or my family because it would worry them. I feel I must respect that. Moreover it would indeed worry them and there is little they could do-none of our families lives near us and we no longer visit because my husband is very reluctant to leave the house never mind the county. I am however thinking of telling a few local friends and acquaintances frankly because I feel a need to share it and because if he does become disorientated on the rare occasions he is in town then if they see him they will be better placed to help. What do others think? I am also interested in your experiences of the diagnosis. My husband was assessed at home by a consultant psychiatrist who spent very little time talking to me ( less than 5 minutes) after he had talked with my husband. He said at the time that he had MCI. At my husband's next routine appointment with his GP , the GP read the consultant's report from the screen and read out that he had diagnosed dementia. This came as a great shock to my husband. He was on his own. I feel the GP should have read the report in advance and asked my husband to attend with me or a friend present. As it was he was upset and confused. I only realised he had dementia when I recognised he had a new prescription - for Arricept. The diagnosis was in early February since which time there has been no follow up. I have raised my concerns with the GP and Consultant but am reluctant to complain further as my husband does not want me to. How can professionals act so carelessly ?