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  1. jimbo 111

    jimbo 111 Registered User

    Jan 23, 2009
    5,082
    North Bucks
    To the Memory of My Lovely Lady

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GBGaloOxNkU&feature=related

    Tomorrow ,14th January will be the 65th anniversary of our wedding
    Helen died in 2010 just a few months after our Diamond anniversary
    Time has deadened the pain but it will always be there
    I still can’t get around to saying it ‘would’ have been our anniversary
    It is still ‘live’
    I have mentioned before of the poignant memories I have of our diamond anniversary
    My wife was a lovely dancer and I couldn’t dance a step I persuaded a friend to teach me to do a waltz
    I was arranging a large celebration party
    I had bought a lovely diamond eternity ring ,and was to slip the ring on her finger when I tried to dance as they played a favourite tune

    When Your Old Wedding Ring Was New
    (An old song sung by a Jimmy Corelli He wasn’t much of a singer ,
    But it was the words that mattered)

    When your old wedding ring was new

    And each dream that I dreamed came true
    I remember with pride how we stood side by side
    What a beautiful picture you made as my bride

    Even though silver crowns your hair
    I can still see the gold ringlets there
    Love's old flame is the same as the day I changed your name
    When your old wedding ring was new

    (When your old wedding ring was new
    And each dream that I dreamed came true
    I remember with pride how we stood side by side
    What a beautiful picture you made as my bride)

    Even though silver crowns your hair...
    I can still see the gold ringlets there
    Love's old flame is the same as the day I changed your name
    When your old wedding ring was new


    But none of this was to be .her Alzheimer’s had progressed too far and the only time she had the ring on her finger was on the day of our anniversary
    I never had the thrill of dancing just that one time
    The diamond eternity ring is now in the loving care of our eldest granddaughter, and I know this would please her
    These memories , poignant as they may be , are very precious , and when the sadness subsides I am still happy to remember what could have been
    Like many people who are in a similar situation
    I can only end my day with the prayer
    ‘that some day we shall be together again’
    jim
     

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  2. Izzy

    Izzy Volunteer Moderator

    Aug 31, 2003
    59,595
    Female
    Dundee
    Thinking of you on your anniversary Jimbo.

    That song was one of my mum's favourites. It wasn't to be for her either. My dad died at the age of 67 and she loved until she was 93. Beautiful sentiments in the song. x
     
  3. jan.s

    jan.s Registered User

    Sep 20, 2011
    7,352
    Oh, Jimbo, such lovely memories. Helen was a very lucky lady to have had such a caring husband, and to have been married for 60 years is a huge achievement for you both.

    I am sorry your anniversary didn't work out entirely as you had planned, but I am sure Helen knew how much love you had for each other, and still do have. Nothing can change that. It is great that your granddaughter has the ring and I'm sure she wears it with pride.

    I shall be thinking of you both tomorrow.

    Jan x
     
  4. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,593
    Kent
    Thinking of you on your anniversary Jimbo.
     
  5. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,534
    North East England
    Also thinking of you and your lovely lady Jimbo.

    xx
     
  6. BeckyJan

    BeckyJan Registered User

    Nov 28, 2005
    18,972
    Derbyshire
    My thoughts are with you too Jimbo,

    At the beginning of David's illness we agreed to dedicating an area of our garden to roses. Those you have pictured are so similar to the ones I have here now. Some of David's ashes are nurturing them.

    Fond memories for both of us.
     
  7. rajahh

    rajahh Registered User

    Aug 29, 2008
    2,796
    Hertfordshire
    A lovely post Jimbo. Full of love. Jeannette
     
  8. LYN T

    LYN T Registered User

    Aug 30, 2012
    6,968
    Brixham Devon
    What a lovely post Jimbo-to go hand in hand with your lovely memories. 60 years! What an achievement.

    Love from

    Lyn T XX
     
  9. jimbo 111

    jimbo 111 Registered User

    Jan 23, 2009
    5,082
    North Bucks
    Thank you BeckyJan
    The rose is named 'Lovely Lady 'and I bought several of them for family and friends when Helen died
    I have three in my front garden and it is always a pleasure in the summer
    when the neighbours passing say it is a lovely memory of my wife , a 'lovely lady'
    jimbo
     
  10. Rettaere

    Rettaere Registered User

    Sep 30, 2014
    232
    Liverpool
    Thinking of You x

    Hi Jimbo,
    My thoughts are with you and hope you are ok today,Anniversaries and special times are so hard sometimes,hope all your wonderful memories help you through today..Hugs Retta x
     
  11. Saffie

    Saffie Registered User

    Mar 26, 2011
    22,497
    Female
    Near Southampton
    Well Jimbo, you've done it again. Made the tears run, that is.
    What an absolutely beautiful post.
    I hope your anniversary was a time of more happy memorie than sad ones.

    Our Golden Wedding wasn't as we planned it the previous year either.
    We thought we'd go back to Wales and invite those friends and family who came to our wedding to a small celebration at the country club where we held the wedding breakfast. Amazingly, it is still in existence.
    Instead, I celebrated by taking a cake into the nursing home where Dave moved into 6 weeks earlier after being in hospital since the previous October.
    By this time he had no awareness that it was anything other than an ordinary day.
    Even the staff knew nothing as I was too new to say anything before hand but they congratulated us and shared the cake
    In an effort to make it special, my daughters put a notice in the local paper which was unexpected and kind but it all meant nothing to Dave.

    Since then, 3 years ago, I have been inclined to try to forget the day as it brings
    back such sadness and this last August especially.
    Now I will follow your example and dedicate the day to opening up the door to the memories we shared, no matter how many tears get shed.
    So, thank you so much for that. xxx
     
  12. Benrese

    Benrese Registered User

    Apr 12, 2014
    186
    Lancashire
    How beautiful this is. Thank you for sharing it with us. It means so much to remember that love endures all. It goes with us from this world into the next. Bless...You are a brilliant writer of your thoughts.
     
  13. Trisha4

    Trisha4 Registered User

    Jan 16, 2014
    2,442
    Yorkshire
    Happy anniversary Jimbo for last week. I hope you were able to enjoy your happy memories although tinged with sadness.


    Sent from my iPhone using Talking Point mobile app
     
  14. Soobee

    Soobee Registered User

    Aug 22, 2009
    2,734
    South
    my thoughts with you as you remember your lovely lady x
     

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