I am new to this chat room so I hope I am following etiquette
My mother is 92 and is suffering mid stage dementia, currently she is living at home cared for by my father(84) and two carers who visit 5 times per week.
She has incontinence which is managed but Increasingly my father's care is deteriorating in terms of his patience and my mothers memory is fading. She is hard of hearing and is finding it more and more difficult to communicate. She appears to now confuse me with her grandson interms of what we are doing work wise etc. She can walk a few steps but essentially she is wheel chair bound.
It is clear that we are fast approaching a decision point where my mother would go into dementia specialist care ( the timescale probably measured in months). At this stage my father would probably sell up and move to McCarthy and Stone.
There is a possibility that they could both move to McCarthy and Stone if we continue with the carers. This could suit my father.
My question is (given in the medium term my mother will eventually need specialist care) would it be better to move my mother once or if we can manage in McCarthy and Stone twice thus prolonging their time together. My mother would probably want to stay in the family home but this isn't going to work for much longer.
Your views suggestions are welcome
My mother is 92 and is suffering mid stage dementia, currently she is living at home cared for by my father(84) and two carers who visit 5 times per week.
She has incontinence which is managed but Increasingly my father's care is deteriorating in terms of his patience and my mothers memory is fading. She is hard of hearing and is finding it more and more difficult to communicate. She appears to now confuse me with her grandson interms of what we are doing work wise etc. She can walk a few steps but essentially she is wheel chair bound.
It is clear that we are fast approaching a decision point where my mother would go into dementia specialist care ( the timescale probably measured in months). At this stage my father would probably sell up and move to McCarthy and Stone.
There is a possibility that they could both move to McCarthy and Stone if we continue with the carers. This could suit my father.
My question is (given in the medium term my mother will eventually need specialist care) would it be better to move my mother once or if we can manage in McCarthy and Stone twice thus prolonging their time together. My mother would probably want to stay in the family home but this isn't going to work for much longer.
Your views suggestions are welcome