Hi all
Not a major dilemms this one, but would be glad to know what you think. (please )
Dad waits by the window of the home. looking out for us for hours. One day he said that he thought we had dumped him because it had been so long since our last visit and that he would never have friends again (He thinks my husband & I are his friends and will no longer accept that I am his daughter ....incidentally we had vsited the previous day, but he thought it was 6 months ago)
We visit every day, vurtually. I think we have missed 4 days since he went in the home in early March.
My dilemma is holidays. We are booked to go away in July. How do I prepare him for this?
Do I.....
Stop going daily so he gets used to us not being there and 2 weeks won't be such a shock to him? (Not keen on this cos we enjoy seeing him, he enjoys seeing us and I hate to think of him feeling lonely and on his own)
OR...
Just go on holiday and hope for the best? ( Worried sick about this!)
The home is great and I have no worries about him being safe and well cared for, so that is why this is a silly dilemma really, compared with other people's worries
I did have one idea (Hope you don't think its too daft)
I though I might give a friend of mine a batch of letters and postcards for dad from my husband and me and ask her to post one to him every day. I would ask the staff to explain to him that we were on holiday and would come back and hopefull getting a letter from us telling him the same thing everyday might help to convince him
Oh I don't know, it was just an idea
Jarnee
Not a major dilemms this one, but would be glad to know what you think. (please )
Dad waits by the window of the home. looking out for us for hours. One day he said that he thought we had dumped him because it had been so long since our last visit and that he would never have friends again (He thinks my husband & I are his friends and will no longer accept that I am his daughter ....incidentally we had vsited the previous day, but he thought it was 6 months ago)
We visit every day, vurtually. I think we have missed 4 days since he went in the home in early March.
My dilemma is holidays. We are booked to go away in July. How do I prepare him for this?
Do I.....
Stop going daily so he gets used to us not being there and 2 weeks won't be such a shock to him? (Not keen on this cos we enjoy seeing him, he enjoys seeing us and I hate to think of him feeling lonely and on his own)
OR...
Just go on holiday and hope for the best? ( Worried sick about this!)
The home is great and I have no worries about him being safe and well cared for, so that is why this is a silly dilemma really, compared with other people's worries
I did have one idea (Hope you don't think its too daft)
I though I might give a friend of mine a batch of letters and postcards for dad from my husband and me and ask her to post one to him every day. I would ask the staff to explain to him that we were on holiday and would come back and hopefull getting a letter from us telling him the same thing everyday might help to convince him
Oh I don't know, it was just an idea
Jarnee