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Thank you @Loopiloo and welcome backLynne I am glad the despair has gone for you, it is an awful feeling. For me
and like you I have a deep sense of peace and gratitude for what we had together. Even although Henry's
death doesn't feel all that long ago. Two and a half years. He is constantly in my heart and my head for
always. Not to say I don't at times deeply miss his presence.
Today would have been Henry's 85th birthday Dementia was with us about 15 years but we had a good life and lots of happy memories Daughter Elaine phoned earlier to say similar we were fortunate to have him in our lives.
Thanks for your lovely message Sylvia for thinking about us
Wishing everyone good health and a good 2019
Another new year without that special someone. Let`s hope 2019 will be easier for all of us.
Let's hope so indeed. At this time two years ago was the beginning of the end. The loss has somehow grown heavier and disturbed nights have returned, which explains why I'm here. I had thought I could put it all behind me but it has not worked out. It feels hypocritical showing a brave face when deep inside is so painful. Thank you TP for the support. I don't feel there is anyone I can talk to who could really understand except for you lovely people on TP. So yes, let's' hope that 2019 will be easier for all of us. xxxx
Sadly Dad didn’t make it to 2019. He died suddenly but peacefully on 30 December. By the end, he’d lost his mobility, his speech and was even struggling to swallow liquids. However, amazingly enough he had a brilliant day on Christmas Day and was wide awake throughout, even managing to polish off a three course meal! It’s incredible to think he was dead just 5 days later. Even the staff in his care home were shocked. He’d been there 2 and a half years and they loved him to bits. How lovely he was able to have a positive effect on people even when he was desperately ill xx
Yes, it’s the joyful times that see us through the sad ones. Watching dad battle his dementia has shown me what a strong and brave man he was. Not once did he complain about his illness or the future it held for him, he just got on and lived each day as fully as he could. Even in his final days, he could raise a smile and make me smile along with him too xx
That is wonderful.Yes, it’s the joyful times that see us through the sad ones. Watching dad battle his dementia has shown me what a strong and brave man he was. Not once did he complain about his illness or the future it held for him, he just got on and lived each day as fully as he could. Even in his final days, he could raise a smile and make me smile along with him too xx
Thank goodness it is over now.Oh well, at least people have stopped asking if I had a good Christmas....
If life is not good be it due to dementia or other health issues and people know why do they ask that?
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Henry/s Christmases his five years when he was in the care home were very difficult indeed. I spent the first one with him and wondered why lthe other dementia resident's visitors disappeared just before Christmas dinner which I had with him. He hated everything the visitors and noise the' jolliness' and the next year I didn't visit until the afternoon. He was not so bad but still not happy. He seemed to sense he should be happy and jolly and that it was a special day but he could not understand any of it.
This year (now widowed since 2016) I was 5 days home from 6 months in hospital with a team of carers coming in and struggling with almost no mobility and alone and carers were asking if I had a happy Christmas! I got out of that by asking them if they had a happy Christmas and quite
enjoyed hearing about theirs
I didn't mind being alone, it is not the first time and I did enjoy my Christmas cards and putting baubles on my .very small Christmas tree, with some help from my home help who brought me a plate of Christmas dinner cooked by her mother. Very kind, both are.
I have had my Happy Christmases in the past, when our daughters were young, when there were grandchildren and earlier when our parents were alive and everyone came to us for Christmas. I count my blessings and enjoy my memories.
I remember that feeling an orphan after my mother died a few years after my father. It fades with time but they don't in the mind and heart. At least I had them for a while Mum was 87 and Dad 84.
Jaymore you were so young when you lost your parents.