I have been working to have some me time and truly loving it. They have reduced my hours so that I can fit in mum's care which is excellent. Mum's condition however has deteriorated, she is accepting help in the form of carers which is a first, but feel that she will need a care home soon. Mum is accepting of it, her legs are leaking, she can barely walk, she has had 2 falls in 3 days, and we both believe the company in the care home will help her. I feel so very sad. Actually tearful, so sad. How do others accept when after years of being a carer for their parent(s) they have to accept they can't cope any more. It feels as if it s a failure for needing a care home now rather than being a success of caring for 20 years plus.
I know what I would say to others, and what I have said to others in the same situation, but now it is my turn I need the advice of others.
I know what I would say to others, and what I have said to others in the same situation, but now it is my turn I need the advice of others.