I think most of us feel much the same if its not our partner. Me an my hubby with no help from family look after 1 with vascular dementia and aside running him we have to run his household he is blind deaf and has vascular, his wife is easier as she is in a lovely care home, still needs running and finance sorting etc. My mum who has not got az or vascular, but is blind a bit deaf and very wobbly on her legs and has got forgetfulness of a 91 year old, so we are running her affairs too. You should see me 3 sets of files as well as our own household stuff.
When we are set free which is not very often as there is something ever day, doctors dentists shopping finances repairs well you know on and on. We tend to act really strange if we get away for a night or a weekend. Drink to much and take risks and behave like people who have been locked up for a long time. It is really weird, its like make the most of time out. My dad died when he was 65 too young but I think of him fondly and have no resentment , these 3 make me feel trapped and resentful, I would like nice memories when they are gone, but unfortunately I may only feel relief and freedom, thats when I get over the constant planning in my head, you have to plan ahead all the time, I sometimes think my head will burst, I also have to look aftermyself too as I do have MS. Thanks for the opportunity to have a rant.