Hi everyone, sorry this is a bit of a ' winge' but I know only one place where my situation is well understood and that is here on TP. Don't send in stuff very often as am like all of you busy dealing with life caring (via a nursing home) for my dear Mum who is 88 and six years down the road with AD. Sometimes I feel as if I am going to loose my mind with worry and exhaustion - while also trying to be a reasonable Husband for my wife and Dad for my children - angels they are all three. Last week had a row with the town disability parking people who for the first time in 2 years since we joined said we could only use their under cover parking if we used a piece of their equipment e.g a wheel chair. After a frustrating discussion explaining we had been using the car park facility for 2 years with no requirement (or need!! - I have got our own wheel chair for Mum which I keep in the car) I stormed out as I had to get Mum to an appointment. So much for community help for the disabled!!!! Plan to make a formal complaint - meantime will send them back their perishing membership card and tell them we shall alternative arrangements in future. Then got home to find a letter from nursing home who - having offered Mum a better room which we accepted at a cost mentioned of around £35 extra each week (currently paying £750 per week) - advised me the extra cost would be £65 per week!!!!!! Room is only marginally larger than other one so spent about an hour this morning talking the NH manager and owner suggesting the increase was excessive and simply saying it was unacceptable. After time negotiated down to increase of £45 per week. I feel it is soon time for some regulation/control to be put in place in these places - they seem to think they have a licence to print money!! Mum is well cared for for sure but my God at £3200 every 4 weeks the proceeds of the sale of her house - another exhausting and guilt ridden nightnare I am having to manage right now - won't last very long. I hope to goodness I can spare my kids this hellish situation - I am already working out ways to 'hand them over our assets' so they will not go nuts and bankrupt as they try and live their lives and raise their families. Dear Mum, you really dont deserve this at the end of a productive and happy life - the only blessing is that you are not aware of what is going on. Sorry to sound so selfish and self centred folks - just have had enough at present but need to find the energy to keep going too!! Know the feeling? Bet you do! Thanks for the space to let me let off some pressure. Now back to try and do some work work! Hugh