I know I shouldn't get cross at Mum, but I just can't seem to help myself. I find myself losing patience with her so easily. I start every day trying to be positive and supportive but tumble down the same pitfalls again and again.
I just don't feel like she's trying at all.
I know she forgets things. I know she gets confused. But she just doesn't try and just expects everything to be done for her.
I've just come from her now, after helping her into bed. There is a sandwich and fresh cup of juice by her bedside table (within easy reach). She wants me to pick the cup up and give it to her. She doesnt try to reach for it, just wants me to do it. I reassure her she can sit herself up and turn and reach for the cup, but she refuses and says she can't (she can, it just takes a wee bit of effort). I sit her up, turn her body, balance her hand on the bed fame and point to the cup. She bursts into tears and accuses me of being mean. I start to get annoyed and insists she reaches for the cup, which she eventually does and takes a drink. I praise and tell she can do it, she just needs to take her time and set her mind to doing the task. I get a glaring look and am told what a horrible person I am. I storm out in and bad mood with her, then burst into tears as soon as I've left the room - I feel so horrible.
Every task is like this. Going to the toilet. Sitting on the sofa. Every simple little thing.
She is much more capable than what she believes she is. She has such a defeatist attitude and would rather wallow in sef pitty than do anything. I don't know what to do any more.
I'm five months pregnant, my blood pressure is going through the roof and I'm doing more physical work (lifting and lying her) than I really should. This on top of running my own house (as well as hers) and keeping down (a very stressful) full time job.
I just want her to turn and lift the cup. Without me beginning to lose my temper at her, before she even tries.
I just don't feel like she's trying at all.
I know she forgets things. I know she gets confused. But she just doesn't try and just expects everything to be done for her.
I've just come from her now, after helping her into bed. There is a sandwich and fresh cup of juice by her bedside table (within easy reach). She wants me to pick the cup up and give it to her. She doesnt try to reach for it, just wants me to do it. I reassure her she can sit herself up and turn and reach for the cup, but she refuses and says she can't (she can, it just takes a wee bit of effort). I sit her up, turn her body, balance her hand on the bed fame and point to the cup. She bursts into tears and accuses me of being mean. I start to get annoyed and insists she reaches for the cup, which she eventually does and takes a drink. I praise and tell she can do it, she just needs to take her time and set her mind to doing the task. I get a glaring look and am told what a horrible person I am. I storm out in and bad mood with her, then burst into tears as soon as I've left the room - I feel so horrible.
Every task is like this. Going to the toilet. Sitting on the sofa. Every simple little thing.
She is much more capable than what she believes she is. She has such a defeatist attitude and would rather wallow in sef pitty than do anything. I don't know what to do any more.
I'm five months pregnant, my blood pressure is going through the roof and I'm doing more physical work (lifting and lying her) than I really should. This on top of running my own house (as well as hers) and keeping down (a very stressful) full time job.
I just want her to turn and lift the cup. Without me beginning to lose my temper at her, before she even tries.