Hi not been on for a couple of years. My husband has been in care now for 18 months. The very worst decision I've ever had to make. Don't know how I got thro the first year after 40 yrs together. Constant meltdowns, they do reduce. The guilt is overwhelming. I just try to keep busy and have supportive family and friends. There is so much support in the community when you are classed as a carer but nothing now. It's just a slow bereavement and we don't fit into any category. I don't think it gets easier you get used to it and do the best you can. Obviously you benefit from being able to sleep etc. The last few months caring was hard, now it's a different hard.