I have just listened to a carer describing her life looking after her husband with dementia in the MOOC course and appreciate even more the community on TP who help each other with insight and support. The lady who described her life was just like ‘one of us’, and I understood everything she was saying with complete honesty, no sugaring of the pill. I have learned so much especially that we are not trained to do this work, didn’t sign up for it and come to the end of our tether often. We cannot be saintly carers 24/7, and need to be kind to ourselves as we battle with this irrational person without anyone understanding unless they have experienced it themselves.