I feel as though it is a case of 'here I am again moaning and groaning' - but I can't sound off to anyone else who would understand....
If you recall, OH has stoma he doesn't understand and dementia.
Last week he admitted to getting up in the night and carrying out a prolonged bathroom routine, 'for something to do' when he wakes in the night. He does not actually need the bathroom.
Now he has started staying up later and later at night.
Last night has left me feeling completely exhausted and unable to function properly.
Remember we live in a bungalow, so all rooms very close to each other
I went to bed at 10.45 - he had already started on his many Horlicks before going to bed - he will not stop doing this.
1.00am - the TV is still on loudly - this wakens me, and I worry that he is OK - he is !
1.30am - I waken and realise he is in his own room, playing patience or something
2.00am - he finally goes to bed, clattering around and making a racket in the bathroom.
4.00am
he is up and in the bath room again, routine which is long and complex, and noisy - my bed head is against the bathroom wall - there is no where else I can put the bed in my room.
6.00am
he is up again and clattering around in the bathroom
7.00am
I get up as I cannot sleep and take him his coffee.
He gets up, decides he will finally have a shower - snow stopped him on Friday - and he only showers twice a week anyway - but he cannot do this until the carer gets here at 11.00am
When he gets up, I notice a towel across his bed. Turns out he has wet the bed and just covered it over with a towel and got back in bed.
He is stroppy, and I am tired. and it will be the same tonight, and tomorrow and the same for so many of you out there. But this is the first time, for me, that he has wet the bed, and it just seems to put the tin lid on everything.
If you recall, OH has stoma he doesn't understand and dementia.
Last week he admitted to getting up in the night and carrying out a prolonged bathroom routine, 'for something to do' when he wakes in the night. He does not actually need the bathroom.
Now he has started staying up later and later at night.
Last night has left me feeling completely exhausted and unable to function properly.
Remember we live in a bungalow, so all rooms very close to each other
I went to bed at 10.45 - he had already started on his many Horlicks before going to bed - he will not stop doing this.
1.00am - the TV is still on loudly - this wakens me, and I worry that he is OK - he is !
1.30am - I waken and realise he is in his own room, playing patience or something
2.00am - he finally goes to bed, clattering around and making a racket in the bathroom.
4.00am
he is up and in the bath room again, routine which is long and complex, and noisy - my bed head is against the bathroom wall - there is no where else I can put the bed in my room.
6.00am
he is up again and clattering around in the bathroom
7.00am
I get up as I cannot sleep and take him his coffee.
He gets up, decides he will finally have a shower - snow stopped him on Friday - and he only showers twice a week anyway - but he cannot do this until the carer gets here at 11.00am
When he gets up, I notice a towel across his bed. Turns out he has wet the bed and just covered it over with a towel and got back in bed.
He is stroppy, and I am tired. and it will be the same tonight, and tomorrow and the same for so many of you out there. But this is the first time, for me, that he has wet the bed, and it just seems to put the tin lid on everything.