It ís difficult for them both as there is a certain amount of denial, especially the younger who does not see us so often. Their Dad is always rising to the occasion, hosting, I was amused as he kept explaining in great detail to the younger one, a grandmother, the importance of not losing local maternity services. She started to look bewildered. When we look at our son inlaws they do not do a fraction of what we did at their age and for many years after. I do not think even the one who lives nearer really understands. I spent an hour sorting out a tablet as he plays one game on it. Yesterday another hour or so helping rescue an item jammed under a chair, more to sort out the TV again. This constant explaining, monitoring and aiding saps the energy. The girls just see us home all day without much to do! The other day hanging trousers on a hanger was complicated. Families often seem to act this way!