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Not sure if this will help but have read in other forums about no rinse shampoos and caps, ie with the shampoo you just put it on the hair, lather it up and towel dry. Must admit I havent tried it on OH but maybe it will help you. Just google no rinse shampoo.My day has started badly as my wife has again refuses to wash her hair (5 weeks now) and I lost it and said she is dirty and I’m not putting up with it any more. I can put up with most things....aggressive behaviour, inability to decide on food, me doing all the household stuff but her being dirty, that isn’t easy. I’ve had load of advice but can’t get her into the bathroom for this simplistic activity. I now feel horrible for being angry but somehow justified as I know most people would react the same. When I meet people sometimes and explain they say what a wonderful job I’m doing, she’s lucky to have you, etc. Then I get home and I’m trapped again in this endless round of desperation. I’ve told her she can go on her own to our daughter for Christmas because I don’t want to take a smelly mum anywhere. Nope, doesn’t make any difference. I wish I could just escape and get back to some life of my own. Pigs might fly.
The liquid ones are best.Not sure if this will help but have read in other forums about no rinse shampoos and caps, ie with the shampoo you just put it on the hair, lather it up and towel dry. Must admit I havent tried it on OH but maybe it will help you. Just google no rinse shampoo.
Thanks for your concern. Still no washing of hair but she says she’ll do it just befor Christmas when visit our family but of course that’s another 3 weeks. Also she refuses to visit the dentist and I’m concerned that she’s not brushing them correctly. On both these matters I can’t force her, she’s not a young child learning to do things, she a 72 year old forgetting to do things. These are battles I can’t win and it’s draining to even try when it ends up in me being angry and frustrated and my wife being angry and disliking me for mentioning it ‘one more time’ . My daughter could help but she lives 4 hours away and we see her irregularly. And she refuses to visit the hairdresser.Hi @Dutchman - I'm still worried about the dirty hair - would an appointment at a hairdresser do the job - could you just take her there ? And then say it's a gift !? My husband loved having his hair washed - thank heavens - and likes the barber. Just likes attention. But if it will worry him - like the doctor - I say nothing and just take him! Could your daughter do that ?
I think I would be looking for a few days respite if I were in your situation - I am quite frustrated for you . All the best hope a miracle comes along !
Yes, you are right I know and what makes it worse is that there is no solution or alternative to the situation. I was asked the other day by her brother how I was getting on and that he didn’t know how I put up with it I said what’s the alternative, I have no choice. One of two things could happen to radically change things .....I die or my wife dies. There, that’s the elephant in the room and I’m ashamed that I even think this way but honestly, hasn’t many thought the same but we care because a large part of us still hold those feelings of tenderness and compassion however hard that is sometimes.
Asking to go home when we are already at home is one I still find difficult to deal with. It's aways after 9:00 pm, about an hour before mum goes to bed.