I've posted before about my father-in-law's spending. The sums aren't huge but he buys DVDs that he then decides he doesn't want to watch. Most of them are passed on to us unopened. Or else he'll open them, watch a few minutes and decide they're not what he wants. (He has a huge library of DVDs but mostly just watches one or two. I think this is because he can remember the plots which means he can understand and appreciate them.) He has a modest income from a couple of pensions, and at times expresses worry that he'll run out of money (He also wants to keep largish sums of cash in his sheltered flat. As well as stashing some money in his desk, he hides notes in the pages of books in his bookcase.) My husband had discussed the DVD buying and there'd been an agreement that my father-in-law would have a chat with him when he next wanted some. Then they'd do the ordering together. Inevitably my father in law has forgotten this. My husband gets the bank statements and FiL has put in an order for two lots of DVDs at mail order companies. The total is just over £100. My husband said he'd have another talk. I said I thought that the talks were pretty useless because they were forgotten. Taking a cheque book away - though distressing for both my husband and fil seems the right way forward to me. My husband has just gone to my fil's bank. This is to see whether it might be possible to a) put a lowish limit on the cheques they'll pay and/or b) only accept a cheque when it's also been signed by him. Just wondered what thoughts people had. My husband is also going to call his brother, before any further attempt to tackle his Dad.