Hi
Mum is not swallowing food now and the Care Home have stopped my Dad using a syringe to feed her - he is medically trained and understands how to recognise signs of choking etc - to be honest in one way I am a bit glad because Dad and I have discussed this and said we don't want to prolong this for Mum - just keep her comfortable as possible and let nature take it's course. Breaks my heart though because they have been together over 63 years (teenage sweethearts) and Dad thinks if he can get a little food into her "he gets to keep her longer". I chat to him about it and he agrees but suppose when he visits and see's Mum he just wants to keep her as long as possible.
Anyway - when it gets to the stage of the Doctor signing the Statement of Intent - has anyone taken time off work pre death to spend more time with the person rather than all of the time off after death to sort things out ? if so has this been classed as compassionate leave or have you needed a sick note to cover it ?
Thanks
Carrol
Mum is not swallowing food now and the Care Home have stopped my Dad using a syringe to feed her - he is medically trained and understands how to recognise signs of choking etc - to be honest in one way I am a bit glad because Dad and I have discussed this and said we don't want to prolong this for Mum - just keep her comfortable as possible and let nature take it's course. Breaks my heart though because they have been together over 63 years (teenage sweethearts) and Dad thinks if he can get a little food into her "he gets to keep her longer". I chat to him about it and he agrees but suppose when he visits and see's Mum he just wants to keep her as long as possible.
Anyway - when it gets to the stage of the Doctor signing the Statement of Intent - has anyone taken time off work pre death to spend more time with the person rather than all of the time off after death to sort things out ? if so has this been classed as compassionate leave or have you needed a sick note to cover it ?
Thanks
Carrol