Hi there
When is the right time for my mum to go into a home. My dad is a true star and is holding onto mum for as long as he can but the rest of us in the family (sister, brother and me) think she should be in a home now. My mum - i think - is nearing the late stages of alzheimers. She's been diagnosed for at least 6 years now and she is sometimes totally out of control.
She is wetting nearly every night, hitting my dad if he tries to change her. In fact hitting me( I live closer to my parents where my bro and sis live 250 miles away) or dad for any reason that she fancies. She refuses baths she hits the carers she's filthy at times. She puts her daily clothes over wet night clothes etc. It never ends!!
I undersatnd dads plight that he loves her no matter what and that he can't give up 50+ years of marriage "just like that!", but I keep worrying about his sanity and health. I used to call him and he seemed so pleased and cheery, now he just answers "hi". How can I make him see that he wouldn't be giving up on his marriage and he has done the best he can. Maybe i'm wrong maybe there's some more mileage in this yet.
Another thing is that no home will ever be good enough. She has been in for respite but there's no stimulation, they just sit there and watch Daniel o Donnell all day!
Is there a register of homes that are particulalrly focused to Alzheimers patients?
Aud
When is the right time for my mum to go into a home. My dad is a true star and is holding onto mum for as long as he can but the rest of us in the family (sister, brother and me) think she should be in a home now. My mum - i think - is nearing the late stages of alzheimers. She's been diagnosed for at least 6 years now and she is sometimes totally out of control.
She is wetting nearly every night, hitting my dad if he tries to change her. In fact hitting me( I live closer to my parents where my bro and sis live 250 miles away) or dad for any reason that she fancies. She refuses baths she hits the carers she's filthy at times. She puts her daily clothes over wet night clothes etc. It never ends!!
I undersatnd dads plight that he loves her no matter what and that he can't give up 50+ years of marriage "just like that!", but I keep worrying about his sanity and health. I used to call him and he seemed so pleased and cheery, now he just answers "hi". How can I make him see that he wouldn't be giving up on his marriage and he has done the best he can. Maybe i'm wrong maybe there's some more mileage in this yet.
Another thing is that no home will ever be good enough. She has been in for respite but there's no stimulation, they just sit there and watch Daniel o Donnell all day!
Is there a register of homes that are particulalrly focused to Alzheimers patients?
Aud