Hi Chris I should perhaps confirm something you will probably appreciate - I've been fortunate to be able to maintain some sort of link with Jan, despite the rigours of the nightmare of dementia. Dementia was not able to destroy our relationship, though as one would expect, it has changed it in the most drastic fashion; how could it not? That doesn't mean that, beyond that link that we maintain, the rest of everything to do with her condition is hunky dory. The whole thing is an absolute nightmare that haunts me daily but what can one do but plough on? It just makes things a wee bit easier if every so often, I can look at everything and say "well at least that worked" or "that wasn't as bad as I thought it would be".