Yesterday we were visited by the lady from the Alzheimers Society. We talked about my husband's needs and generally the things that have happened since our last meeting. Many things had happened. We had been visited by the Social Worker for an assessment so that Alan's needs can be met whilst I'm on holiday. I talked about how not getting the promised phone call from Social Services following the assessment, meant that it undermines trust that they will deliver what they say. If one can't keep to the promise of a phone call, how much more difficult will it be to deliver a service??!! I appreciate how busy and probably overstretched the Service is but we are all overstretched. I was able to use this time to share my experiences, positive and negative, and gaining from it the wonderful experience of being valued and heard. Then Alan kind of said "This is me". Somehow he was able to share his frustration of not being spoken to clearly about the results of his scans and tests. He started to talk about how different it was for him when he had a hernia operation because the doctor and nurses spoke to him and included him. How he could see the results of what they did. Alan was saying he was angry that the doctors who arranged for tests and scans, didn't arrange specifically to see him to speak to him about the results. It was then that I realised that Alan can't move on until this happens. Having this time with the 'lady from the Alzheimers Society' proved invaluable because Alan was able to be given the space and time to say "This is me". He was also able to say that "I am physicaly fit, I have interests, I am a person". He actually managed to say that in the time we had. He said he didn't want the problems to be the sole focus of attention. He managed to say "Why don't they say - wow don't you do well".