This is how we manage!

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by malomm, Oct 10, 2015.

  1. Pickles53

    Pickles53 Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    2,475
    Radcliffe on Trent
    Yes, this is exactly how I feel too.
     
  2. ellejay

    ellejay Registered User

    Jan 28, 2011
    4,018
    Essex
    Right, so I'm supposed to look after my aged mother in my home?

    Oh, hang on, My OH & I are considered elderly (67 & 71) , so presumably, our son should take us in + my 94 yr old mother.

    His adult children can't afford their own homes, what with zero hour contracts & minimum wage.

    Wonder if Mr Hunt is planning TARDIS houses as yet another nonsensical idea?

    Ooh, and will the ill only be ill during the day, or will the Au pair have to have living accommodation too?

    Lin x
     
  3. sleepless

    sleepless Registered User

    Feb 19, 2010
    3,223
    Female
    The Sweet North
    Squeeze in a couple of spinster great-aunts while you're at it, why not?
     
  4. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,525
    North East England
    The good news, Lin - according to my GP - is that you are not considered to be elderly until the age of 75 :D
     
  5. ellejay

    ellejay Registered User

    Jan 28, 2011
    4,018
    Essex
    On the strength of that CG, I'll just go for a run round the block :D :D

    Lin x
     
  6. gringo

    gringo Registered User

    Feb 1, 2012
    1,189
    UK.
    At nearly 87, I suppose I shall soon have to accept the ‘elderly’ label. I shall not ‘go gentle into that good night’, and shall ‘burn and rave at the close of day’, deriving as much pleasure as I can from being a grumpy old git. I have no intention of moving in with either of my two offspring, even in the unlikely event that they would offer to have me! Perish the thought! And perish Mr. Hunt as well.
     
  7. garnuft

    garnuft Registered User

    Sep 7, 2012
    6,585
    Ha ha! That put a smile on my face and believe me, I'm trying really hard NOT to smile today.

    My views on the subject too, Gringo.

    It isn't that I don't want to be a rock round my oldest son's neck...wicked part of me likes the idea of pay-back. (it's a joke but only half a one ;) )

    No...it's that as MUCH as I love him...I'm always happy when he goes home and he skips off home as happy as a bairn on the way to an ice-cream van with a pocket full of pennies.

    We like our own space, my son and I...apple of me eye didn't fall far from the tree.
     
  8. Witzend

    Witzend Registered User

    Aug 29, 2007
    4,291
    SW London
    Please please please send this post, just as it is, to the Daily Mail letters page!

    Jeremy Hunt is a ********. Like so many who pontificate so piously about the elderly, he evidently hasn't a bloody clue about dementia.
     
  9. CollegeGirl

    CollegeGirl Registered User

    Jan 19, 2011
    9,525
    North East England
    I'm right behind you Lin. A long, long way behind you :D
     
  10. notsogooddtr

    notsogooddtr Registered User

    Jul 2, 2011
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    I've done it!No expectation that they will publish but who knows!
     
  11. sleepless

    sleepless Registered User

    Feb 19, 2010
    3,223
    Female
    The Sweet North
    Great! Fingers crossed.
     
  12. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    Cor! You're braver than me, malomn. I saw this a few days ago and didn't have the guts to share it. Glad you did, tho'.

    How does this geezer think that type of care is going to be paid for? Who supplies the minimum wage? How long for?

    Is he completely out of his box?

    :mad::mad::mad:
     
  13. malomm

    malomm Registered User

    Not being brave, just angry and indignant at the ignorance shown by the majority of politicians etc. where dementia is concerned-
    keep smiling,
    malomm
     
  14. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    Notwithstanding, also, that our loved ones don't like strangers in their homes, and we have to all live with that fallout constantly...

    Thinks these people who know it all should be put in a room with a recording of what caring looks like. All of it. No respite for them for six months! No leaving the room. Just made to watch. Then, they can comment!

    Sorry Mal. I'm soapboxing :D
     
  15. notsogooddtr

    notsogooddtr Registered User

    Jul 2, 2011
    895
    My brother has just sent me a message to say he saw my letter in the Daily Mail!
     
  16. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    11,093
    Female
    South coast
  17. sleepless

    sleepless Registered User

    Feb 19, 2010
    3,223
    Female
    The Sweet North
    #37 sleepless, Oct 17, 2015
    Last edited: Oct 17, 2015
    Fantastic!
    I wonder if it's available to see online?
     
  18. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    7,008
    Suffolk
    I saw it too and was thinking ...someone's pinched that from TP!
    Well done you! I thought it came across very well! :)
     

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