I know you're all in hell too so I'm sorry to whinge but I've got to off load or start smashing up everything around me (note: I'm in work and that wouldn't go down well!) I'm starting another new thread because this is about my mum and I don't want to confuse it with the one about my aunt (does anyone have a virtual cigarette to hand??!!) I think we've reached a point were we're at a real loss to know what to do with or about mum. My sister is talking about nursing homes - I don't know that we're at that point but then what is that point? I can see what she's saying as I would rather mum went into a nursing home than my dad die of a heart attack brought on from the stress of caring for mum. However, I don't think any would take her given how aggressive she is. It is all becoming sssooooo stressful - she's just aggressive and unpleasant every day and can be hysterical for many hours at a time - she cries and wails at the top of her voice - she hits out and slams and throws things. I've just spent 30 minutes on the phone to my dad even though I'm in work (won't go down well) just to try and keep him somewhat "grounded" and calm as she's rampaging around the house and trying to constantly escape. She's now having increased anti depressants and anti psychotics but they don't seem to be making any difference at all - not even a little bit. The only time it works is if dad gives her another dose of anti psychotic and then she eventually falls asleep. We still have no contact from SS although a CPN came out to see us just before Christmas - she stayed about ten minutes, did a memory test on mum (which I personally find pointless as memory is just not the issue with mum) and said she's see us again next year. What the hell use is that to anyone? We've told the consultant that the drugs aren't helping and she said we have to stick with it to let them build up in her system - well it's been at least eight weeks so to my mind that should be time enough. I just don't know what to do, what to suggest to dad - I can't even help out as much as I used to and take her off his hands on the days I don't work because she's too unpredictable to have around my daughter and neice. I'm seeing him and talking to him every day and spending as much time with them as I can so at least dad doesn't feel isolated but what are we going to do? This just can't carry on. I know it's not her fault but I'm starting to hate her for making my dad so unhappy - talk about mixed priorities eh?