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thinking you are somone else

Discussion in 'I have a partner with dementia' started by merseyman, Jul 9, 2015.

  1. merseyman

    merseyman Registered User

    May 16, 2015
    4
    Can anyone tell me if they have the situation that I have. my OH really believes that when I get up to her in the night that I am my twin she really believes that I am trying to steal our savings and steal our home. She thinks I live in the loft with my family. The thing about this dilemma is I haven't got a twin in fact I haven't got a brother. Its so distressing when she is talking about you to you.
     
  2. Spamar

    Spamar Registered User

    Oct 5, 2013
    6,976
    Suffolk
    I frequently used to be mistaken for his carer, so you would get conversations like
    Where's my wife
    ( no point saying I was his wife) she's had to go out so she left me in charge.
    Oh, Will she be back?
    She'll be back by her bedtime

    It worked. If you can, just ride with it. There was no way at all during these times that he would accept that I actually was his wife, and I guess similar for you.
     
  3. pamann

    pamann Registered User

    Oct 28, 2013
    2,635
    Kent
    Hello mersyman, welcome to talking point, my hubby is just the same, he talks to me about his wife all the time, it is so distressing. I find it very difficult to cope with it, unfortunatly it is all part of the disease.
     
  4. Chuggalug

    Chuggalug Registered User

    Mar 24, 2014
    8,007
    Norfolk
    I used to find it quite chilling when I was asked where our guests were, especially as we never get visitors more than twice a year! Three times, at the most. I never knew how to respond. Surreal is how I remember those times.

    Apparently, all those things which happen at home concerning dementia now never happen since my husband has been in care. The change in him is a complete 180. I'll never know how that was achieved.

    I can only wish you strength and patience, merseyman.
     
  5. merseyman

    merseyman Registered User

    May 16, 2015
    4
    thank you for your replies I know now that I'm not the only one with this situation:)
     
  6. Lilac Blossom

    Lilac Blossom Registered User

    Oct 6, 2014
    520
    Scotland
    Hubby thinks I am a care worker who stays around longer that the carer who comes in the morning. Why do you stay so long? You're my wife? Well fancy that - no-one told me :confused:
     

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