Hi, new to this page but feeling I need a little advice .My dad is 85 . These last 18 months especially I feel he has gone downhill in a lot of ways. Forgetful, mobility, food hoarding, very aggressive in manner, losing weight, sleeping an awful lot.My mum has washed her hands of him . He has been violent towards her on 2/3 occasions and she is not caring or sympathetic towards him anymore.I think situations are inflamed by the way they speak to each other. I phoned my dads GP in the summer expressing concern on the above. He said we needed to get him into the surgery. My dad is diabetic so sees a nurse and thinks that she is a sufficient , but we keep saying he should see a doc. He won’t allow either me or my mum to any of these appts. He still drives which I don’t think he should due to his mobility. He has had blood tests and says all is ok but we havent seen any letters. He is very much in denial when we express concern.He talks away any confusion he has and becomes angry. My brother is pretty useless, he doesn’t really see how bad things are. I have a teenage son with special needs, I only have 2 afternoons off per Week and only see my parents on a Sunday . My mum said this week she has had enough and I triedto to explain about the possible illness he has and if she wants to leave we would help. I feel all this is a lot to deal with. My parents wouldn’t forgive me if they knew I had rang the surgery but I feel something needs to happen. I don’t know if I could cope with my mum leaving him and then a diagnosis for my dad and dealing with both situations. Sorry for the long thread.