Mum is 64 and has advanced vascular dementia. She has now stopped eating and taking her tablets for about 5 weeks now and apart from a teaspoon full of food maybe every 3-4 days. She was still drinking but now this is also stopping, she has gone from drinking tea to full fat milk and barley water but has now gone off these and now she drinks a glass or two of coke a day, but then brings up thick phlem its as if her body can not hold it in. She has lost wight and gone down from a size 18 to size 12. Speach has virtually gone apart from the odd words, sleeps lot but not for long periods and when she is awake constantly talks but not so you can understand. Know she is incontinent with urine, does not go often but this will be due to how little input she is having, think she may be double incontinent how ever father has not shared this just said she has had an accident once. She still smiles when I first walk in the room or at my father when she wakes from a nap but a lot of the time she just has a vacant look on her face. She can go days with out my father or me changing her clothes and gets very aggitated if we try to persue. Also she has not let us wash her hair now for 4 weeks, have said to my father we will keep trying but will not force her. Sorry about the long post but I am sure this is the final stage that my mums body is just giving up, can anyone tell me if I'm right or am I just thinking too dark?