My mum of 60 was diagnosed with demetia 3.5 years ago. Lately she has got a lot worse. She was getting pretty aggressive and was wandering a lot so was prescribed Abilify in a very low dose - an anti psychotic drug i think with mild sedentary effects. She's starting to become incontinent - possibly as a result of the new drug. Her friend/partner who has been caring for her a lot over the years feels he can't do it any longer - he has a dad going the same way now too, so now my brother and I are trying to sort out care so that she can stay at home. I have moved near to my mum - to herefordshire from london - but have two children under two so although i do the mounds of paperwork and obviously visit a lot and sort out stuff - i can't put the hours in - specially as two children under two and a sometimes aggressive lady don't mix too well. my brother's girlfriend lives in france and although he works for himself and has given up tonnes of time lately to try to sort things out he has to get on with his life. We've been trying to find people who can care for mum at home. But the other night on one lady's first night mum went a bit bonkers and frightened her. We now feel a bit nervous to start anyone else, although i have to say with mum, it's bark and no bite. still can be scarey. We're looking into homes now but because she's so young we worry that she'll react against it. She was one of those mums who said 'never put me in a home'. i won't be saying that to my kids now i have to say...anyway - has anyone been in a similar position? i'd like to hear from others - their experiences of this... and any ideas? does anyone know anywhere in the midlands or south west or wales which caters for people with early onset alzheimers?
thankyou
Katherine
thankyou
Katherine