I recently join talking point, as my mum who is just 73 was diagnosed with vascular and Alzheimer's mixed in December. my dad had been caring for her at home, but things had steadily got harder and harder , as mums confusion got worse,until we reached a crisis a couple of weeks ago. Dad had rang in tears, I went to their house, and mum had been ranting for 18 hours, in my dads face. We got mum to bed, and had THE talk with dad that things were no longer manageable and maybe it was time to look into residential care, or respite care for mum. She was only sleeping two hours a night, both her and dad were emotional messes, and he was exhausted. the very next day, dad called me at 7 am, mum had collapsed, I called an ambulance, and basically the a and e department took us to one side and said mum needed placement NOW!! We agreed and within six hours she had been taken to an emergency care home for dementia. We were very unhappy with the place she was taken too, it was very scruffy and unkept, and have been extremely lucky that mums social worker was understanding, and told us to go look at some places that accepted la funding, and she would see what she could do. Within a week, We were very fortunate to find a place in what seems so far to be a nice, calm home, not too far from dads house. mum seems a lot happier, now she is free to roam around and do what she wants to dad (dad was always trying to get her to sit still, for fear of her injuring herself) and, oddly , does not ask to go home, or even talk about any of us while we are not there. She seems to just live for the moment, and its something I'm shocked my, as she was so attached to dad before.
We are all still,spinning from the speed of things!! My poor dad is lost without her at home, it's all very sad, but the only solution as there is no funding for overnight help at home with aN awake dementia sufferer!!
Feeling stressed to the hilt, but its better stress that worrying whAt is going on with them at home together!!
We are all still,spinning from the speed of things!! My poor dad is lost without her at home, it's all very sad, but the only solution as there is no funding for overnight help at home with aN awake dementia sufferer!!
Feeling stressed to the hilt, but its better stress that worrying whAt is going on with them at home together!!