here goes. previous threads instigated by grandaughter,but the facts are---3 years of absolute hell. I did 30+years of psychiatric nursing in most trying situations, including geriatrics, mainly as a charge nurse with 6 staff per ward, but it was easy compared with my current situation. I feel as if I've been emotionally " lynched " The 18 hr. days of physical input is almost rewarding in a masochistic way,but the isolation and lack of communication with a shadow of my wife is devastating!! I have organised a virtual private nursing area at home and have every safety devices in place, including the usual outside help; eg. GP, CPN, Age concern,but it makes little difference. All shopping is done online somehow. I am never more than 10 feet away from my wife, and am constantly wrestling with her to prevent injury. There is always someone worse off though, and I wish them well ! Ah well, I feel better now sorry to moan.