Yesterday I received an email from social services explaining that the situation is very difficult for them because mum appears lucid when they have seen her, but I and the home have expressed serious concerns about her capability and they have to take these concerns on board. Because mum has said she wants to go home they said they are actually keeping her at the care home illegally. However their legal team have told them to do some more 'intensive' work with mum to make sure that she fully understands all of the risks of going home and to clarify that she is in fact capable of making that decision. If after this mum still insists that she will be safe (and they will go into great detail about the risks) they will then refer the matter to an independent assessor who will decide whether or not mum has the capacity to make the decision for herself.Thank you for updating this - yes I was amazed at how focussed my Ma could be when she 'needed to' - very strong generation of women.
I just can't think of anything you else you can do, keep connected with us please x
Of course mum will stick to her guns and insist that she will be fine at home because this is her one goal and she won't let anything stand in her way, so I can obviously see the independent assessor will need to go in and make the decision about her capacity.
I'm reasonably happy that social services have taken my comments on board and aren't just bulldozing ahead, but all I can do is wait to see what happens next.