What a lively argumentative bunch! Imagine us sitting around with drinks! They'd have to call in the riot squad.
Norman, I didn't mean that other people's misfortunes make me feel better. It's more a putting things in perspective. I can get awfully caught up in myself & how cruel it is that my mother developed AD so young etc and get whiny & snivelly & trust me it's not a pretty sight. I have always felt that it is harder for the spouses than it is for the children, because we realize that our parents will go before us. That's why I feel so much for my friend whose daughter has AD.
TF, how am I gonna convince you??? I won't even try. People all have their up & down days. Don't forget - someone might look like they're coping but who knows.
What brought this to a head for me: Tuesday the front page of the Toronto
Star was about a one day wildcat strike of the subway & buses & it was all over the radio & TV & what a hardship blah blah blah. Monday the front page was 5,100 dead in Indonesia. Both same prominence. But what a difference!!! People were whining & going on about hard it was to get to work, how they couldn't get there & lost a day's pay - on and on and on the same old junk. Meanwhile, death and destruction in Indonesia & of course here they didn't give a rat's derriere because they were moaning about the transit.
When my mother was first diagnosed, I think I cried for the first 3 months. It's been over 5 years & I only have the weepies now & again. I've coped because I have no choice.
I guess saying worse off is the wrong term - I'm not sure what the right term would be.
Wendy, yes, I do obsess a lot about AD. I talk about it a lot - I'm a huge bore to most people. That's why I'm here & other AD places - places where people KNOW what I'm talking about.
Okay - what shall we squabble about next?
Norman, I didn't mean that other people's misfortunes make me feel better. It's more a putting things in perspective. I can get awfully caught up in myself & how cruel it is that my mother developed AD so young etc and get whiny & snivelly & trust me it's not a pretty sight. I have always felt that it is harder for the spouses than it is for the children, because we realize that our parents will go before us. That's why I feel so much for my friend whose daughter has AD.
TF, how am I gonna convince you??? I won't even try. People all have their up & down days. Don't forget - someone might look like they're coping but who knows.
What brought this to a head for me: Tuesday the front page of the Toronto
Star was about a one day wildcat strike of the subway & buses & it was all over the radio & TV & what a hardship blah blah blah. Monday the front page was 5,100 dead in Indonesia. Both same prominence. But what a difference!!! People were whining & going on about hard it was to get to work, how they couldn't get there & lost a day's pay - on and on and on the same old junk. Meanwhile, death and destruction in Indonesia & of course here they didn't give a rat's derriere because they were moaning about the transit.
When my mother was first diagnosed, I think I cried for the first 3 months. It's been over 5 years & I only have the weepies now & again. I've coped because I have no choice.
I guess saying worse off is the wrong term - I'm not sure what the right term would be.
Wendy, yes, I do obsess a lot about AD. I talk about it a lot - I'm a huge bore to most people. That's why I'm here & other AD places - places where people KNOW what I'm talking about.
Okay - what shall we squabble about next?